Couples Therapy
Understanding the patterns between you
Couples therapy offers a space to pause and understand what is happening between you when communication feels stuck, reactive, or distant.
Rather than focusing on blame, we explore the relational patterns that develop between partners and how each person experiences the relationship.
This work is attachment-focused, helping you understand underlying needs, emotional responses, and the ways you both move towards or away from connection.
You may find that:
- communication quickly becomes reactive
- you feel distant from one another
- the same arguments keep repeating
- you struggle to feel understood
- trust has been impacted
- you want more connection but don't know how to get there
Couples often come to therapy because something feels stuck.
Sometimes there has been a specific event. Other times, the distance has developed gradually over time.
Therapy creates space to slow things down and understand what is happening beneath the surface.
Sessions
- 60 minutes – £85
- 90 minutes – £125
What our work together may involve
Rather than focusing only on what is happening, we explore why these patterns occur and how they affect both partners.
Together we look at:
- attachment patterns
- emotional responses
- relational dynamics
- ways of moving towards or away from connection
- underlying needs that may not be being expressed or understood
This is not about deciding who is right or wrong.
- It is about creating greater understanding, safety, and connection within the relationship.
A relational and attachment-focused approach
My work is rooted in attachment-focused and trauma-informed practice.
Many of the patterns we experience in adult relationships have roots in earlier relational experiences.
Couples therapy offers an opportunity to understand these patterns with greater awareness and compassion.
Together we create space for honest conversations, deeper understanding, and new ways of relating to one another.
If you're considering couples therapy
Beginning therapy together can feel like a significant step.
You may be unsure whether things are "bad enough" or whether change is possible.
An initial conversation offers a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether this feels right for both of you.
TRAUMA-PROCESSING APPROACHES
- The Rewind Technique
- The Rewind Technique is a structured trauma-processing method that helps reduce the emotional intensity of traumatic memories without requiring you to retell the details. It is delivered over two back-to-back sessions, allowing the brain to process the memory safely and effectively while keeping you grounded. This approach can be particularly helpful for intrusive memories, flashbacks, and trauma that feels "stuck" in the nervous system.
- The Flash Technique (EMDR-informed)
- The Flash Technique is a gentle, EMDR-informed method that allows distressing memories to be processed while you remain focused on something positive or neutral. It is designed to keep you regulated throughout, making it suitable even for clients who find traditional trauma work overwhelming. Flash can help soften the emotional charge of difficult memories without requiring you to go into the details.
© Sharon Newland Counselling and Psychotherapy
Developmental Trauma Psychotherapy in Central Bristol and Online
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